Why people love to suffer
Sounds exaggerated I know! but we choose to suffer all the time.. I see it in other people through the decisions they make but more than anything, I see it through the things that come in my mind, and how I choose to react on them in that time. This is currently the most studied and lengthiest blog I've written and it's an area of life I'm profoundly passionate about because it has the ability to CONNECT or DISCONNECT us from GOD.
WE DON'T HAVE THE PATIENCE TO FIGURE OUT THE THINGS IN OUR MIND.
That's truly a major piece to our puzzle, we do not take the time to build a case in our mind, proverbially speaking. Our intentions and actions tend to not align, some way, along the way what we wanted got misconstrued in our mind and our true purpose got too difficult to find. ARE WE ALL JUST LAZY NOW? Is this what has become of us, people who do nothing but believe they are doing so much? Well how is your heart today? how is your mind today? how is your body today? Are you feeling dapper?
It's been a tough time for me you see, since I'm being honest I lost control of my emotions. Seriously, a many few times actually. & that taught me something valuable. They navigated me to paths and areas of myself that needed a more deeper, more further examination of. I'm not sure if we're all acquainted with how linear healing is and how it's something that's never truly finished. Moving on from different aspects of your life doesn't necessarily mean that you've healed from them. Whatever it is, be it avoided, ran from, or even protected from. There was still something there that you needed to learn, there's always something to be reflected on and worked through.
Through my introspection and examination of myself, I came to the conclusion that we cannot fully heal ourself by ourself. We NEED triggers, and those trigger just happen to only come from other beings. We can heal from animals but more specifically I'm speaking on humans, because they mirror to us our deepest most unconsciously preserved core wounds, buried deep within our nervous system. The need to exude these safety mechanisms that I programmed within myself has become even more prevalent because as we evolve so do the situations and circumstances that we involve ourselves in. Our reactions, defenses, & ways of communicating must diverge from unhealthy to healthy, not as swift as a light switch, but more so steadily improving on itself over time.
So when does suffering occur? Suffering occurs in a moment or period of being ungrounded. It often begins not at the moment of the initial pain, but rather when the mind latches & clings onto it.
For example; Say someone betrays your trust, to take it even deeper say you're in a relationship with someone and you spoke to them in the past about how you're not fond of people telling others about your private business and that's actually something that makes you not want to tell people certain things. Then you've discovered things you've told them they've discussed with others for their "opinion" on the matter. Now your levels of trust is no longer as strong as they once were, the discovery destroys your sense of safety. Not only in yourself but in your decisions when it comes to those outside of you, regardless both are still you. You begin to dive deeper and question your decisions around this person, I say this person because a sense of disconnection begins to seed and take root. How much about them is true and can be trusted, can they even handle and carefully carry the full extend of you, if you continue to unravel before them? If they could not comprehend the severity of those principles to you, that though meaningful are still just the surface of you, could they handle the depths?
See this spiraling of negativity came from one initial wound. It wasn't the wound that caused the suffering it was the spiraling into negative thinking. The answer to these questions are not in your control, part of living is accepting the unknown. That's why every single day is a blessing because we never know if we are going to wake up, the fact that we do is valuable within itself.
So what am I saying here really? Well, I once read in a book "THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK." That the "Mind is Maya" which means reality as experienced is just a construction, structured by the minds lenses.
According to Buddhism which claim is quite radical when it comes to the mind. Not only does the mind filter our reality, but the entire world is a projection of our consciousness. Ever had a dream you believed to be real until you awakened? Well Buddhism provokes you to think: What if waking life is another layer of dream?
In Vedanta which is a spiritual system that implores you to question things like;
What is the nature of ultimate reality (Brahman)?
What is the true self (Ātman)?
How do we overcome ignorance (avidyā) and suffering (duḥkha)?
What does liberation (mokṣa) mean, and how is it attained?
& according to Vedanta awakening from Maya is provoking us to consider the central human possibility of obscurity in order to recognize that the mind’s constructed world, isn’t the whole of reality. So awakening means a shift in identity (how we identify ourselves). Ordinarily, we identify with the "Play of Maya" which is basically our: thoughts, desires, roles, stories. “I am this person, with this history, with these problems.”
But Vedanta insists that behind all of that, there is "atman" (pure consciousness) that's a witness to all we experience. I personally I like to consider this " WITNESS" as "SOUL". Where modern science looks outward to understand the cosmos, Vedanta looks inward to discover what/who the experiencer of the cosmos really is.
Some key points to tac in our mind of awakening is;
Disentanglement: You see that pleasure and pain, success and failure are passing waves on the ocean of awareness. You comprehend that everything comes and everything must go, so you'll flow with life.
Non-duality (advaita): You no longer experience yourself as separate from the whole—atman (self) is Brahman (absolute reality). Normally, we feel like; I am me, right over here, and the world is out there. That’s duality. But through deep inquiry and realization, that sense of separation dissolves. its like the drop of water realizes it is the ocean.
Freedom (moksha): This doesn’t mean escaping the world but being free within it, not bound by the compulsions of fear and desire.
So why is this a KEY to our suffering? Well because if we live in these terms, this realization will tend to show up in our life as profound peace, freedom from fear, and a natural sense of compassion. Because if all beings are expressions of the same self, hurting another is literally just hurting yourself.
to be continued......
OUR UPCOMING BLOG WILL FOCUS ON "HOW TO ACCEPT SUFFERING." IN PARTICULAR BECAUSE WE CANNOT END SUFFERING, WE JUST HAVE TO NOT CLING TO IT. BECAUSE CLINGING TO SUFFERING LEADS TO DEPRESSION.
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