Are you a TRUST GIVER or TRUST EARNER?

THIS QUESTION is something I've pondered on & off, up & down on, over the last couple years. I've also asked a lot of people "Are you a TRUST GIVER or a TRUST EARNER?" almost 100% of the time I was told "I'm a trust earner, people have to earn my trust." Which I always considered interesting because I didn't feel the same-way, I'll be completely honest there's been many times I thought I was a trust earner but that's not the case, at least not fully. 

Throughout my life a large amount of people have always considered me gullible, and in many instances I truly was.. but again I am a trust giver; so throughout my life I've had to experience a lot of betrayals to which I had to introspect, retrospect and learn from. Of-course growing up I thought I was surely cursed, to only want to get to know people, love them and create cherish-able moments with them being who they truly are. 

I thought back then, I was being who I truly was.. but I wasn't truly, not fully I kept a great deal of my self in a safe space, in fact I still do. Which in many cases attracted people towards me who wasn't comfortable with their true self but that's another topic on hand for different blog for another day.

I realize now that I'm much older, that no matter the gravity of my past circumstances there were clues, hints, & signs that I chose to ignore. why? I'd say for thrill, for adventure, & for FUN. I was chasing the enjoyment of life.. the problem was, it wasn't my time to be doing an excessive amount of that. I had to learn that not every offer needs to be taken up on, some seemingly opportunities are meant to be passed up on.  When you're off balance is when you encounter friction, a sense of being pushed back or held down in  someway, shape, or form.

 You may feel as if the world & the universe is against you, but the hardest thing to believe is it's not at all against you but in turn, trying to work with you.   

Furthermore, as a "TRUST GIVER" one of the most important lessons you learn is the "IMPORTANCE OF FOLLOWING YOUR INTUITION!" 

Trust givers more than often give people more freedom to be themselves allowing people to be able to be their true self without any restrictions or regulations that people can sometimes energetically or fell they have to abide by, while trust earners usually come with a set of regulations, expectations and sometimes even a fine sense of entitlement where they expect people to do things to prove themselves that they themself would never do. 

Trust earners often tell me they "rely on ones actions", so in theory people have to do a lot of proving

themselves for them to pursue or incorporate one into their life. Which is finicky to me because trust givers learn that people often perform or have an over exuberant false bravado which tends to die out like a fickle flame. You can't just rely simply on actions and words because that leaves you susceptible to deception, you must/have to rely on multiple different sense's & or forces of nature. 

OR you'll be prey to people who are very keen observers who can after extensive research come to a almost pristine conclusion of what it is you're looking for in a person order for you to feel safe & willing enough to disclose or rather open the deepest most even every part of you.

This is something that can be easily accomplished when it comes to trust earners because they're relying on everything outside of themselves to come to a conclusion of who and who not to trust. Trust earners also have a habit of expressing to people wether verbally or energetically what they desperately want people to do or say in order for them to feel like you're trustable and the catch of this is, usually the very people they want to prove to them so badly that they're trustable are in fact not trustable at all, which bring me to my conclusion. 

Most trust earners keep their enemies close to them without them even knowing or paying too much attention too because in their mind, these people have already proven themselves thus they'd never be likely to betray them, but the beloved. IS NOT AT ALL TRUE. 

Lastly, i'd like to add that almost all children grow up being trust givers until they start experiencing their challenges in life, many get broken during this time && don't really heal certain if any wounds which eventually leads to development of trust issues which then result in the shift from "trust giver" to "trust earner." I must say this is greatly one of the reasons why its important to keep your inner child alive and allow it to thrive well into your adulthood, they younger you wouldn't have a problem trust over and over again even after betrayal, so take the time to ask yourself;

"Why don't I trust myself enough to trust anyone else?" 

                               or 

"Why do I think people should prove themselves trustable to me person I can choose whether to give them my trust or not?"

or even 

"When did I stop believing in myself & other's to the point where I have trouble trusting anything? Where did this distrust begin?"

& lastly

"How can I begin to trust myself more?"

Out of all the questions I have an answer for 1 and lastly. We gain trust as well as confidence from ourself by listening to ourselves & doing everything we tell ourself that we will do. You set a goal, work towards it and don't stop till you accomplish it. When you reach every finish line that is the end of every goal, you'll find some more trust and confidence waiting right there for you, just never forget to be grateful, be your own cheerleader, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.

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